How to Find your Purpose in Life



“Everyone’s life is a fairy tale written by God’s fingers.” – Hans Christian Andersen

Sometimes we might feel we have a higher purpose in life but it’s often too hard to pinpoint exactly what that might be. I’ve been there; actually, I was there for many years.

I had a great job as a technical writer for over a decade but I had this nagging feeling that there was something else that I was supposed to do with my life. I ended up quitting my job and went on an inner search to uncover what was it that I really wanted to devote my life to.

Sometimes, that’s all it takes to find our purpose in life, a leap of faith, the determination to search for our purpose, or the willingness to dare to express our talents in different ways.

I was lucky enough to end up finding many ways in which to experience my purpose, this blog being one of them. Now I truly feel I’m living a fairy tale written by God’s fingers. Do you also feel you’re living a fairy tale? How can you make it happen?

The law of dharma

The beginning of a new year is the ideal time to take the initiative to find channels to express our talents and to uncover our reason to be here. We are not here to be depressed, stuck, sad, fearful, in pain, lonely, or angry. We’re here for so much more!

The law of dharma is the principle of “you are here for a reason” as described in The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success and The Seven Spiritual Laws for Parents by Deepak Chopra.

“Everyone has a purpose in life… a unique gift or special talent to give to others. And when we blend this unique talent with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals.” – Deepak Chopra

Note – We previously also explored the law of least effort, the law of giving, and the law of pure potentiality if you’d like to revisit them.

Each one of us has a special talent and a unique way in which to express this talent that no one else has. Celebrate your uniqueness by taking the following first steps towards a purposeful life. Be in silence for a few moments before starting to connect more deeply with your inner guidance.

1. Make a list of your talents.

2. Write down what things you love to do that use these talents.

3. Ask how you can serve humanity with your unique talents.

4. Move towards your purpose by acting on your talents.

Create a path for your life

Once you uncover distinctive talents and some of the ways in which you’d love to express them, create a plan to act on it. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Where am I right now in relation to using these talents?
  • How do I plan on starting or continuing to express my talents?
  • How far have I gotten in terms of expressing my talents?
  • What’s holding me back from expressing my talents into the world?

You may ask these questions everyday to keep yourself on track.

It’ll come to a point that when you ask yourself ‘where am I now?’ the answer becomes ‘exactly where I need to be’. You’ll also shift from ‘what’s in it for me’ to ‘how can I serve humanity’.

Use the law of pure potentiality (anything is possible) to allow yourself to explore your talents and live your dharma or purpose. Have fun with exploring your uniqueness and enjoy your path!

Your turn:

Do you feel you live a purposeful life? In what ways can you find more purpose in your life? In what ways can you serve humanity? I’d love to hear from you.

With you always in my heart,

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Sharing good stuff on the web:

The following are some of bloggers to seem to be living their purpose.

The Jungle of Life – For being ready to shine.

Peaceful Planet – For not making any assumptions.

Live Bold and Bloom – For being a life-long learner.

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  1. Oh how true, it is that “Sometimes, that’s all it takes to find our purpose in life, a leap of faith, the determination to search for our purpose, or the willingness to dare to express our talents in different ways.” I couldn’t agree more! So, too, is the need to keep asking those questions. I’ve leapt and have dared to express my talents in different ways but wholly appreciate that it’s a journey; a journey to navigate and choose our direction.
    Lovely post, thanks for sharing. Gee

  2. Lance says:

    Serving humanity with the gifts that speak to our souls….mmmmm….what a beautiful place to “be”.

    I sense that, very much, being here – how truly connected you are to all that you share. What a gift that is!!

    And…creating that path in our life…one of meaning and purpose – what great questions to focus on in moving more deeply into what connects with us. As I read these questions right now, I’m drawn into just coming more fully into what speaks from my soul. Andrea, thank you for this, and for creating this space to encourage others on their life journeys…

    Much love to you…always,

  3. Hello Andrea,
    This is very timely for me. I have been struggling for a few years now with what to do with my life. Finally, I have a new career that I will be starting in March. It is not my life’s work, but a definate stepping stone in a new direction.
    I will keep these questions in mind as I embark on this next leg of my journey!

  4. Andrea,

    As Jenny Ann said above, this is a VERY timely post. My good friend Roy was diagnosed with colon cancer a year ago and last week he took a turn for the worse. As of yesterday, the doctors have given him 48 hours to a week. He’s a young guy of 35 with a wife and 2 small daughters. Last night, I videotaped him giving some parting words of advice and loving stories to his daughters so they will always have it.

    Roy said many things but he said one thing I will never forget. He said, “We can look for our life’s purpose and confuse it with what we do for a living. We can let bad things define us. We can let success define us. But our purpose is much higher than that. My purpose is far more tied to my beautiful children and making sure they know how valuable they are.”

    It put things in such perspective. Thank you for sharing this. it’s amazing how so many people are on the same wavelength right now. Just astounding.

  5. RichHartford says:

    Hello Andrea,

    With regards to finding one’s purpose in life, it has to do something about being in contribution to other people. Without it, no goal is worthwhile pursuing.

    Aside from that,a person must constantly evaluate his position about achieving it. Without it, he remains stagnant in this journey called life.


  6. John Sherry says:

    How about simply taking a step in a new direction and exploring life more? New steps on a new path may lead to our truest nature. Old isn’t as gold. Great thoughts Andrea with a real hum.

  7. Dandy says:

    Hi Andrea,
    This is beautiful. It’s great how you put a focus on finding our purpose while serving mankind. It’s not always about us. We have to find a path that has us contribute instead of taking away. Thanks for your lovely writing Andrea! Take care!

  8. Dia says:

    Hi Andrea,

    What an excellent post. I was like you myself living, without having a purpose for many years. Then at the end of 2009, I realized that I was put on this earth for something better and for a reason. I started digging up inside myself and I thank God that I was able to find my purpose in life, which is to make a positive difference in people’s lives through the articles and the books that I write. It all takes just a some questions to ask yourself and with having faith, everyone will find their purpose in life. Thanks for sharing :)

  9. Stuart says:

    Thanks for an awesome article Andrea! I wrote a post about a similar theme to this, 3 Ways To Find Your Destiny, and it covered a lot of the same ground. Good to see I’m not alone in my thinking ;-)

  10. ayo says:

    hello andrea
    how are you and happy new year!!!
    thanks for sharing this article.
    the concept of shifting from ‘what’s in it for me’ to ‘how I can serve humanity is vital because in doing this we become a blessing to people and is able to serve others without expecting anything in return because we are passionate about what we do(within context).
    i guess this takes us back again to the questions you’ve raised and our answers determine how close/far we are to/from our purpose.
    take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

  11. Sandra Lee says:


    So many of us live on automatic for so much of our lives. I know, I did. It’s so wonderful to have this guidance on how to find one’s true purpose and serve humanity at the same time. I too believe we are all here for a purpose ~ to discover our true self and serve others. I’m definitely living my life on purpose and love supporting others to do the same. Thank you for this clarity and inspiration.

  12. The Vizier says:

    Hi Andrea,

    Finding true meaning in our lives is not an easy thing. We have to search for it or create that purpose that we were put here on Earth to fulfil. And as you rightly say, we have to take that leap of faith. It can be scary to step out of our comfort zone to do so. But if we do not make this effort, we will only live a life full of regrets. There is nothing sadder than looking back on your life when you are 70 or 80 and to realize that you have not fully lived. Sure, pursuing your dream or purpose is filled with uncertainty and setbacks, but there is no better way to feel alive and happy.

    I enjoyed reading your helpful suggestions on how to find our purpose in life. The following thoughts crossed my mind as I was doing so.

    Special Talent

    Each of us have our own unique gifts or talents or interests. And it is not by accident that we have these unique skill sets. But because of our urge to conform to societal norms, sometimes we dismiss our gifts if they are not socially acceptable. But to deny our gifts is to deny a vital part of ourselves and our nature.

    In this day and age, we are living in a time of great opportunity. Anyone who has a talent can easily share that talent with others online. Our ability to reach out across the globe to connect with people is unparalleled when compared to any point in history. Once we discover our talents, it is a matter of coming up with a master plan to share it with the world.

    This was pretty much the journey I took. After I graduated from University with a degree in Banking and Finance that I was not thrilled about, I joined the insurance industry. It took me a few years to realize that whether it was sales or back end operations, this was simply not my calling. Hence, I decided to leave that behind and start my blog and I have not looked back since.

    Thank you for sharing this lovely article! :)

    Irving the Vizier

  13. Hi Andrea!

    So cool that you mentioned me as someone who seems to be living her purpose. You’re right. The only thing I’ve ever wanted to do is to write, share, communicate, help, teach, and learn–OK there are a few other things but I mean for my main work. Over the years, I’ve had a few jobs or volunteer positions that included some or most of that, but really, I just want to write as the major or predominate thing, and that’s all. What, exactly, is a separate thing, but I’m doing it and just feeling my way as I go.

    I’ve had many distractions that I’ve allowed to sidetrack me over the years (though I was on the right track a few years ago), but in the last year I did a major *Just Say No* to anything that dared to stop me, even me. When I quit my job a year ago this month, I was really scared because I have a house/mortgage and my beloved dogs and cats to care for. But every time I was tempted to go back to a “regular” job I stopped myself because I know what my purpose is, I know the talents and skills and gifts I was given, and I refuse to trash them or not use them. Every time I’ve turned my back on what I’m supposed to do (even if not intentionally) it fails miserably lol

    I do think we all have a reason to be here, and if we don’t fulfill it, well we get the same assignment next go-round, at least as I see things :)

  14. Prerna says:

    Hi Andrea! Lovely post to start the year with.. I love the idea of reflecting and introspecting to see if what we’re doing is really what we’re passionate about.

  15. This is a wonderful post that, for me, is like a little pat on the back saying, “Yes, honey, you going in the right direction. I “retired” from a legal career about 20 years ago because I knew my purpose was to write and inspire. I’ve wandered off the path a few times during those years, but for the most part, I’ve lived true to it. And when I haven’t, oh boy, can I FEEL it.

    You know when you’re living your purpose when you can’t wait to get out of bed and you’re LIT up with the energy of what you’re doing. Too many people aren’t even close to their purpose, and posts like this one get this essential message out there!

  16. Hi Gee! I’m so glad to see that you value the journey and that you’ve dared to express yourself. It’s a beautiful journey and great fun to more fully enjoy with our talents.
    Thanks for starting the conversation. Loving blessings!

  17. Hi Lance! What a gift to connect with you soul and listen to what it has to see. That’s what life it’s all about, expressing this deeper connection with ourselves.
    Thanks for your kind words, sweet friend. Loving blessings!

  18. Hi Jenny! It’s really refreshing when we start moving towards our purpose like you’re doing. One step at a time like you’re doing is great. The universe understands your intention and starts to reorganize you life. Good luck with your new job! Loving blessings!

  19. Andy Dix says:


    I enjoyed your post and have found many of your Tweets insightful as well. Thank you for spreading hope.

    I too have experienced a transformation as I chose to seek personal satisfaction instead of worldly success. It is an amazing journey. It lead to a book, “Life Matches: Fire Up Your Life!” and a blog and a tweet a day. I call it sharing a spark.

    Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Do what you love, love what you do.” I know from experience that this is sage advice.

    All the best to you. Thank you for sharing your gifts.

    Andy Dix
    Author/Motivational Speaker
    Life Matches: Fire Up Your Life!

  20. Hi Brian! I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. Your friend is a very wise man. We often confuse purpose with career. When we get luck they can be the same if the work we do is passionate and serves a higher purpose within.
    Thanks for sharing from your heart. Loving blessings!

  21. Hi Rich! Yes, it’s about the question “how can I serve” instead of “what’s in it for me.” There is a lot of self-check along the away to make sure we stay true and don’t compromise our heart.
    Thanks for your wonderful insights. Loving blessings!

  22. Hi John! Any step we take towards our dream is a step worth taking. :) It can be a totally new direction or sometimes we just need to tweak the path we’re already on.
    Thanks for sharing from your hearts. Loving blessings!

  23. Hi Dandy! When we combine what we love to do with service it’s a beautiful journey. :) No need to take away, there is so an infinite amount for everyone.
    Thanks for your beauty. Loving blessings!

  24. Hi Dia! I’m glad you found something that you love and can inspire others. That’s what it’s all about. Like you say, asking ourselves some questions is a great way to start. :)
    Thanks for your brightness. Loving blessings!

  25. Hi Stuart! Glad to see that we’re thinking alike. Finding our purpose is a common quest that we all explore at some point or another. :)
    Great to hear from you. Loving blessings!

  26. Hi Ayo! Happy new year, my friend! Yes, a blessing to people and serving without expecting anything in return. You said it. Awareness of our passions moves us close to our destiny.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Loving blessings!

  27. Hi Sandra! It’s beautiful that you’re following your guidance. I love to see others living their purpose. I believe that more and more people are on this beautiful journey of enjoying their destiny.
    Thanks for your gorgeous energy. Loving blessings!

  28. Hi Irving! I agree that sometimes is not as easy as it seems to live our destiny but it’s always worth it. I love that you took the leap and followed your heart. Good point that the internet now offers way more ways for us to express our talents and that the world is more open to receive alternate career choices. The universe responds to the questions we put out. The more we open to our gifts, the more opportunities are created. :)
    Thanks for this lovely comment. Loving blessings!

  29. Hi Leah! I can totally understand about distractions. When we’re passionate about life, like you are, we can sometimes be easily side tracked. I adore how you have the courage to not compromise your passions. Life will provide more and more opportunities for you as you continue to show your commitment to your destiny. :)
    Thanks for sharing your passionate personality with us. Loving blessings!

  30. Hi Prerna! I also the love the idea of reflecting a little deeper on our purpose. We can sometimes take life for granted and not really question what our destiny is.
    Thanks for your constant joy. Loving blessings!

  31. Hi Ande! You’re right that when we’re living our purpose we can’t wait get out of bed, we have more energy, and time seems to fly by. It’s great to feel excited about what we do. Best of luck with following your bliss.
    Thanks for a fresh perspective. Loving blessings!

  32. Hi Andy! Thanks for your kind words. I’m glad to see you seeking personal satisfaction and experiencing a beautiful transformation along the way. I love your view of sharing a spark. May you light up the world!
    Thanks for your sparkling energy. Loving blessings!

  33. Adam says:

    I recently started a journey like that of my. I want to reach and help people in my life. I haven’t quit my job but I have always felt for a long time that that I was meant to do more than just work on fighter jets. Since beginning this personal journey I have recommitted myself to marriage, things haven’t been this great in this house for a long time. I noticed an instant change in my wife when I made my change. The only thing left for me to do now is to change professionally and I’ve been working on that every day since Jan 1. I’ve been doing my 8 hours at my real job and then coming home spending some time with my wife then pursuing my online ventures for about another 8 hrs, but it feels so great to be proactive, and not inactive. Thank you for the awesome blog I will certainly be back to read your wonderful work.


  34. Hi Adam! Sometimes we don’t need to quit our day job while we’re creating another path. We can work simultaneously until we feel it’s the right moment to take the leap. The right moment will come up. Until then, it’s really wonderful to see you moving towards a more fulfilling life.
    Best of luck with your new path. Loving blessings!

  35. Jk Allen says:

    Hi Andrea – Happy New Year! This was a fabulous article and I enjoyed reading it and felt an jolt of inspiration, for it’s a topic that’s been on my mind a lot lately. You really offered up some great tips for one to find their purpose in life. We all have, if not multiple.

    One thing that I’ve found in my own study of me, is that at the end of any goal I set, It’s just about consistent that I want to be of benefit and value to another person. It never ends with me. So if I were to study and learn – it would be so that I can pass that knowledge along to someone who isn’t willing to put in the time and energy to study and learn. If it’s to have financial freedom…part of that freedom is helping whoever and whenever I want.

    Because I have these feelings – these pulls of humanity – wrapped with some talents, I know that my purpose in life is to benefit the lives of others. I’m not only convinced, I’m certain.

    Have a great week Andrea!

  36. Hi Andrea, I’ve always loved the idea of encouraging people discover their talents! I hope you don’t mind me sharing something I wrote back in April last year as it’s very synchronous: Have you discovered your unique talent and gift to the world?

  37. Hi JK! Happy New Year to you too! :) I like your approach: “it never ends with me.” Everything we do is infused with the idea of benefiting others. Beautiful! I also love how certain you’re of your path. It makes it easier when we follow our hearts with conviction.
    Thanks for your joyful approach. Loving blessings!

  38. Hi Amit! Welcome to britetalk! It’s great to hear of another friend sharing the same path and working towards living a purposeful life. Way to go!
    Thanks for sharing. Loving blessings!

  39. Debbie @ Happy Maker says:

    Hi Andrea

    I like this, “Each one of us has a special talent and a unique way in which to express this talent that no one else has.” This is very true. As I write on my blog I and have come to believe this. Expressing a talent,is so important. I was in the corporate world and then found myself out of it trying to figure out what to do. After using some of your tips for finding that talent I found mine. Thanks so much reminding me that I am on the right track.
    To your happiness in life,

  40. Hi Debbie! How beautiful to see you reaffirm your passion all over again. I love that you living your purpose. Thanks for stopping by. Loving blessings!

  41. Dearest Andrea,
    How much i love this post is beyond words….
    I have help Deepak Chopras books very close to my heart…and you mention some of my favorites :)
    I personally believe that when we let go and completely live with faith in the Divine, the answers come to us is the most simplistic ways. Paths open up…
    And yes, I do believe I have found my purpose…. :) I happily now live a purposeful life..and its awesome!
    Thank you for making me feel all great today after reading this…I dont know why but i cant stop smiling right about now :)
    So Much Love,

  42. Hi Zeenat! You make a perfect point: “let go and completely live with faith in the Divine.” It’s the letting go that let’s things happen. The harder we hold on to things, the harder it is to make them come to fruition. My next post is exactly about that “detachment.” Stay tuned. Also, great that you found your purpose. It’s all about smiles, right?
    Thanks for your heart-warming reply. Loving blessings!

  43. Found you through Prerna over at The Mom Writes and am happy to have done so! I found my purpose quite by accident but following your four steps would have gotten me there.

    Several years ago my daughter-in-law lost her father to cancer. Beings I’m a quilter, she asked me to make a quilt for her mom from his clothing. I also made items for each member of the family – kids and grands. Now I create custom memorial quilts and companion items, such as pillow covers. It’s gratifying but heart-wrenching at the same time – I get to know the deceased through the process and it can be emotional at times. But it’s such a help to the bereaved, with both the healing process and the practical matter of what to do with the clothing. Also, many people either don’t sew or don’t know how to deal with the variety of fabrics that make up a wardrobe.

    Great blog, btw. I’ll be looking around:)