Friendship comes in different packages. Some grow slowly and steadily; others sprout quickly out of thin air. The friends that spring out of these encounters paint our lives with vivid colors.
I just watched the movie “Hachi: A Dog’s Tale.” I was moved to tears by the striking example of loyalty and friendship. If you haven’t seen the movie, it’s about a dog that’s loyal to his owner until the very end. The fact that I don’t have pets didn’t hinder me from being able to acknowledge the magnificence of this simple and unexpected friendship.
This post is not about dogs; it’s about being the friend that you’d like to have. It’s about being the kindness you want to see in the world. It’s about how we relate to the people in our lives. It’s about being there for others when they need us. It’s about reflecting to the world the loving kindness that we have in us.
Tips for a lasting, fulfilling friendship
The best friend you could ever have is yourself. Even though that’s the best case scenario, there are other friends in our lives that can also be great allies along our path.
To celebrate all types of friendships, here are the trademarks of what makes a great friend. The following are some simple, yet perfect ways in which you can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
Be a cheerleader
Cheer your friends on regarding their projects and ideas. Support their efforts in whatever capacity they need you to. Believe in them so they’ll believe in themselves.
“A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself.”
Be a motivational speaker
Motivate your friends when they are down. Inspire your friends to achieve their dreams. Lift them up. Present a positive outlook on their lives.
“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”
Be someone your friend can count on in times of need. Be a good listener when your friend needs one. Let your friend know that you are there, no matter what the circumstances.
“A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.” -Walter Winchell
Be faithful and trustworthy to your friends. Keep their secrets. Be devoted to the relationship.
The dog from the movie “Hachi” seemed to live by the following quote. He was forever loyal to his owner.
“Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.”
Be honest and genuine with your friends. Tell your friends the truth when called upon. Be frank without being brutal.
“A friend can tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.” -Frances Ward Weller
Meet your best friend
It’s good to have a friend who can embody all the qualities mentioned above. Ultimately, however, you need to be the one that embodies all these qualities for yourself, before you can be this kind friend to someone else. You can be your best friend, your cheerleader, and your motivational speaker.
To check whether you are being your own friend, pay attention to your self-talk. Notice whether you are being kind to yourself. Notice whether you believe in yourself and whether you are there when you need comfort. You already have all the strength and motivation that you need inside of you. All you have to do, is be the best friend to yourself you can possibly imagine.
“A friend is a present you give yourself.” – Robert Louis Stevenson
In case we forget that we can be our own best friend, it’s great to have other friends around on whom we can count.
How much are you willing to give of yourself in your friendships? Do you have any friendship story you’d like to share?
With you always in my heart,
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